Remember that you

are not in a contest. You are in a discussion. You are trying to work WITH your partner, not AGAINST her. When it’s a straight-out fight, you are trying to understand each other’s sides, and come to an agreeable conclusion for the both of you — which won’t happen if you’re just trying to “win.” When it’s a topical conversation, you’re sharpening your thinking and communication skills, working on understanding each other’s viewpoints, learning from one another, etc. — again, it’s not a contest you’re trying to “win.” It’s a conversation. Treat it that way.
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